Re-ignite the Romance in Your Relationship

It’s so easy to become complacent in a long-term relationship or marriage and forget that those little acts of love are important. While we may not be technically courting each other anymore, it’s still vital to make each other feel loved and wanted.

It’s not always rainbows and unicorns when it comes to relationships. It’s those tough times that can show you just how strong your connection is. Ultimately, do you love this person? If so, make a point of expressing that EVERYDAY and don’t be afraid to communicate your need for the little reassurances.

Every couple is different when it comes to what works for them on not only maintaining the love connection, but also encouraging a deeper bond between the two of you. There are so many factors that play a role; children, work schedules, self care, and so on. The first step… get on the same page and commit to making your connection together a priority.

3 Keys to Success

1. Open Communication
This is a big one! Communication can make or break any relationship. It is imperative that couples take the time to listen to each other and speak openly about what is happening in their individual worlds in addition to their team environment. Make your relationship a safe and welcoming place so each of you feels comfortable with expressing your feelings to improve upon your existing relationship.

2. Finding Your Love Language
We have all heard this term being thrown around, but it’s a legit thing! There is a reason Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Love Languages” is a New York Times and Amazon best seller. This read is a game changer for couples. The book encompasses 5 suggested ways people give and receive love. The whole premise is that falling in love is the easy part; it’s staying in love that becomes the challenge.

3. Make Time for Each Other
It seems everyone has crazy schedules and copious amounts of tasks to check off daily. We often don’t make quality time with our partners a priority. I have personally been struggling with this one as it’s easy to feel the disconnect when you are both super busy. Even just 20 minutes can make a world of difference!

Some Things to Try…

Dedicate Time

My solution was to have a bit of quality time preparing supper. I am often way too exhausted to be creative with figuring out what to make let alone having the energy to go to the grocery store and make sure I have everything I need for a decent supper. I signed up for HelloFresh and while we are only a week in, we both LOVE it! I do the majority of the preparation, but my spouse is always there to look over my shoulder and make sure I’m chopping and cooking according to his standards. In a fun way of course! It has given us an opportunity to be playful in the kitchen and have some laughs along with a glass of wine (usually two for me).

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Quick Getaway or Staycation
Birthdays and anniversaries are a great excuse to plan a little getaway. I am trying to be a bit more spontaneous so surprising your spouse with a night away at a hotel not only helps a local business, but it gives you both a reason to book an escape in your own town or city.

The Little Things

Sometimes it’s the little things that mean the most. A text message during the day saying “thinking about you xo” or cleaning the snow off their car before you leave for work. Whether it’s picking up your husband’s favorite evening snack or surprising your wife with some flowers or chocolate on a random day. It’s always nice to let your partner know you are thinking about them!

Talk to Each Other
Your relationship should be a safe space to communicate with each other. It is no one else’s responsibility but the two of you to create that foundation. Listen, absorb, and respond to what your partner is telling you. I find the best time to do this is before you go to sleep or when you wake up together (Sunday mornings for us).

To all the lovers out there…
Appreciate each other.
Make time for each other.
Listen to each other.
Love each other.