March 1st is the anniversary of when I started over after leaving a long-term relationship with a man I thought I would be with for the rest of my life. I won’t dig up all the details of why things turned out the way they did, but ultimately it wasn’t a healthy relationship and I wanted more from a partner. I will say that I am grateful for those almost six years regardless. I use this anniversary as a time to reflect on how much I have accomplished and how far I have come.
A friend of mine asked me this morning how I feel today in comparison to the one year anniversary. So here it is…
One year post breakup
I felt relief to reach that one year milestone. Coincidentally it fell on the same day as one of my therapy sessions, so I celebrated with a person who had been instrumental in helping me unlock my authentic self and start to heal. At this point I still felt slightly lost. I felt like I was walking on an unknown path and with a blindfold on, but I felt validated in my decision to move on from the relationship and step into my past traumas so I could seek out healthier relationships in general.
Three years post breakup
Today… while I am busier than ever, I am more focused than ever. Focused on building a life that I want. Working towards my goals with intention. I also feel overall healthier; not just emotionally and mentally, but physically as well. I have completely transformed my life. I am no longer willing to compromise who I am for anyone or anything. I am no longer willing to settle for less than what I desire and deserve. I stand strong in my self worth and know the value I bring to the table.
I relocated to a new city and province almost ten years ago and built a new life. A man entered that life and was part of it for almost six years. Three years ago I started over once again. Sometimes I have to take a step back and look at everything I have done. Everything I have created and accomplished. One thing I can genuinely say now is that I’m proud of myself.
Bright & Bare Sassed 